I and my grandmother live in California and she has late stage dementia for last 5 years. Besides that she’s very healthy physically, but I can’t handle it. The physical and emotional toll it has taken on me I can’t handle it anymore. I can’t afford memory care and we have no other family or anybody willing to help. I’m at my ends and I need a solution quick. The only issue is that My grandmother is not Eligible for Medical because of immigration status and only has emergency medical. She has turned violent sometimes, throws stuff at the walls or at me, breaks things, yells and cries and then forgets it. I feel trapped in my own home because I’m scared she will hurt herself. I find human waste from her in places where I rest. Clogs the bathrooms, hides my things, locks herself in so now I have to have a screwdriver in every room. I can’t go outside or she will scream on top of her lungs because she doesn’t want to be alone. I can’t handle it no more. What do I do?
Maybe the hospital will do a social admit (5150) and keep her hospitalized to try to medicate her so that she isn't so agitated and aggressive. But if she doesn't have Medicare or Medicaid... not sure the meds will be covered.
I'm so very sorry you've been put into this situation. If you find a solution please come back and tell us since you're not the only person to post about this dilemma.
I would call Area on Aging (211; 311) and immigration groups to verify what happens if a federally ineligible noncitizen is left in the er. Would they just stabilize her and call a cab to a homeless shelter?