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I take care of my 98 year old MIL who has recently moved in with us because none of her other adult children could make a decision about what to do. She had been living at home by herself and going a month without a bath and peeing everywhere. We had to act and take her home. She has so much money and won’t spend it on herself or care. She returned her hearing aids when she found out how much they were and canceled caregivers we set up at her house. Now she’s at our home and gets mad if I spend anything on her care. Money is all she thinks about! Also we have made her wear diapers and she gets angry everytime I buy them. I’m so frustrated!!

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Move Lucy into a Memory Care Assisted Living facility as shes obviously suffering from one of the dementias. Whoever is acting as her POA needs to make that decision and take over her finances entirely so shes clueless as to how much money shes spending on ANYTHING. Its all "free" or covered by Medicare is the new mantra, as I did with my mother.

Best of luck.
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Time to move her into MC, you really didn't have to take her in, now it is time to move her out.

This will never work, she has lived her life, it is time for you to live yours.

This is her children's problem not yours, stop being their crutch.

Good Luck!
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Who is POA? This is their problem , not yours. POA can take over her finances , take the bank books , statements away from her .
Whether you hire caregivers to come in the home or place her in a facility tell her Medicare pays for it . Lie, lie, lie .
It will only get worse , I vote for memory care facility .
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Tiredniece23 Oct 2023
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I hope ur DH or somebody has POA. If so, place her in a nice Assisted Living.
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Ugh! I know! I know what you're going through. I don't know about POA being able to put them in a nursing home against their wishes. I had been running across a brick wall with what I was reading where if they don't want to go, no one can force them to go.
Like your MIL, my aunt is a penny pincher, as well. We had home care attendants against her wishes. She decided she no longer needed them, even though she clearly does. So now she is home, basically alone, and I do not know what is going on with her, but I know it can't be good.
If you can get her in a facility, please do. It's where she belongs. My aunt fights tooth and nail to go into a facility, and doesn't want home care, but wants others to come visit and help.
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